Having a lack of self-confidence of low self-esteem can affect nearly all areas of your life. It can affect you socially, while giving a presentation, meeting new people, or applying for a job. Confidence issues can come about for many different reasons and over time we just get used to it and start describing ourselves as “not confident”.
If you are dealing with confidence issues at the moment, you’ll understand the impact and how it can stop you from doing things you really want to do. There are so many ways a lack of confidence plays out, and what I’ve done is put together a list of some of the tips that I share with my clients to help them work on and regain their confidence.
1)Challenge Yourself. Stretch yourself, persevere, overcome obstacles and feel great!
2)Stop worrying about what others think of you. Focus instead just on what you think!
3)Surround yourself with positivity. Positive, enthusiastic, and passionate people are contagious. Allow their confidence to brush off on you. You’ll observe how they confidently deal with things in their life that would throw us off course.
4)Create a new image. This is a fantastic tip that will leave you feeling amazing. Go out and get a whole new image that oozes with confidence, new clothes, new hairstyle, or better posture. When you have this new image you can act up to it with confidence and allow the new you to be born.
5)Don’t waste energy in comparison. Comparison is the thief of joy and confidence.
6)Watch what you say to yourself as you move through the day. We say things like, ‘Oh I can’t afford that!’ or “I’m no good at this”. This type of inner talk is often negative, and it also closes our mind to finding a solution. Instead, try saying something like, ‘How could I afford that’ or “I’m no good at this yet”.
7)Strive for excellence, not perfection. Perfection is non-existent and the pursuit of it is just plain tiring. Look for self-improvement and the pursuit of excellence.
8)Make a change – move house, join a group, make new friends or change jobs. If you find that an element of your life is causing you to lack confidence – change it! Remember though that you set the limit on what is impossible, so open your mind and consciously decide what you can and can’t do rather than just relying on your emotions to make these decisions for you.
9)Discover your talents and use them. You’ll feel great about yourself if you use your strengths and talents – do you know what yours are?
10)Forgive your own mistakes. There is no such thing as failure, only learning.
I hope that you put this small collection of tips to good use and get the confidence that you deserve and desire. I wish you the best.
In action and traction x