Have you ever had a thought or idea that you want to get across? And you haven’t got past the stage of wanting to, because you’re still waiting until everything is perfect, for everything to be just so, before telling anyone or doing anything?
Or have you launched into a project with the objective of having it finished in 60 minutes, to find you’re still at it 3 hours later, trying to have it to an unnecessary and unrealistic level of perfection?
Hands up, that has been me. This blog for instance – has taken me ages to get it going!
I’ve heard people say that they’ll start when they have more money, time, learn more, practice more, when the kids are older, etc, etc, etc. The challenge with this is there is no perfect time. The best time to get started is now. In my experience, most people shut themselves down due to their fears and need to have everything just so.
There was this lady I was talking to who was preparing for a job interview. She had spoken to her sister about the interview. Her sister advised, “make sure you do the interview perfectly, because around here people know each other and if you blow it, you can kiss your career goodbye”.
WOW, no pressure there! Going into an interview with that in your mind is a good way to blow it. You’d probably be terrified, which would cause the mistakes you are trying to prevent. Can you relate? I’ve heard all sorts of things like this before, yet most people are not sitting there just waiting to crush other people who come in. Most are kind, generous and helpful. What you need is encouragement and just to do your best. The world doesn’t end with a less than perfect interview.
Reality is much brighter when you look at the most successful people out there. They repeatedly said that they failed their way to the top, that they learned from their mistakes and went on. There are millionaires that lost everything, brushed themselves off and then created more millions. They talked to people and connected with them. You can’t succeed by being a hermit.
We are not born with all knowledge on all things. We are not robots, calculating our every move. We are human beings and learn by doing. We discover through interaction. We learn when we communicate our thoughts and ideas. Are there naysayers out there? Yes, run from them. Find the good ones who are looking forward to hearing from you and don’t judge.
One day I was sitting in the car, waiting for my husband while he ran into a shop. I got out a pen and this is what just flowed out:
It is in the trying and being that makes us human. It is the journey not the end that tells us who we are and what we are made of. Perfection is not a means, it leaves no room for variation, creativity and understanding of the process. It is through the trial and error that we gain knowledge and wisdom. We remember and learn more through our mistakes than by what we do perfectly. For if everything were perfect, done perfect, there would be no journey, no life, no adventure … only an end.