What I have found in my work is that most people these days are busy running around trying to arrange their lives to be somewhere else. They want to be somewhere else geographically, financially or in relationships. We’ve been led to believe that if we can be somewhere else then things might work! This, of course, is escapism at its best and it’s like a drug. Ultimately it only gives temporary relief to a chronic problem.
Apart from wanting to be somewhere else, most people today also live by the philosophy of “someday” that allows them to manipulate time. “I can do it, but just not today. I’ll do it when…” and they use excuses to stay in their comfort zones. They live on a place called Someday Isle (I’ll) – and that is not a good place to live because it’s full of procrastinators who keep you there with them! The problem is that both Someday and Somewhere are undefined. They’re illusionary. Somewhere does not exist and Someday never comes, despite hoping. This is disempowering and it’s responsible for huge disappointment and frustration for a great many people.
The truth, however, is that right now is all you’ve really got. Tomorrow is never promised to you and learning to fully live in and for the moment is a vital distinction to make in creating a great life you love. Being grateful does not mean that you lose your drive or purpose but allows you to slow down and really enjoy the ride. Using Someday as an excuse to soften your problems will not create long term success and fulfilment. Be honest with yourself and stop making excuses! A little pain can be useful as it will move you to action. There is always something you can do right now to turn your ideas into reality. There is always one small step you can take.
One of your biggest assets is resourcefulness. This means that right now you have all that you need to achieve whatever you desire, and you have the ability to take action with exactly what you’ve got and exactly where you are. You don’t have to wait for “someday when” or “when I am…” before you take action towards your dreams and goals. The smallest step can make all the difference because what it does is immediately brings your idea to life and smothers Someday. Using your will and your resourcefulness to consciously take charge is what Action Takers do.
With goal setting, the joy lies in the doing and the journey. You do not travel for the purpose of reaching a destination but for the purpose of travelling. Whatever dream or goal you are pursuing you are likely to spend more time in pursuit of it than achieving it. Most goals are an anti-climax when you achieve them anyway! True fulfilment comes from the journey, and it is the experience that changes you, makes you become something.
Live in the present but know where you are going. Be right here, celebrate and capture the wonderful moments in your life. Life is and created in the moment. Now is the best time to design the next ten years of your life. Let your thoughts and knowledge serve you through action. Action is what eventually determines your destiny. Move confidently in the direction of your choosing and don’t get seduced by the popular belief that someday things will come your way or someday your luck will change. You are the source and the creator of your own success. You can start right now with exactly what you’ve got.
Living in a place called Somewhere Isle won’t serve you long-term although it might feel good as a short-term escape! Having to constantly lie to yourself that you will act on your true desires someday when x, y or z is just right will only create unnecessary stress, frustration and guilt. When you turn your “someday” philosophy into a “same day” philosophy you can adopt the mindset where you act on your ideas immediately with exactly what you’ve got and exactly where you are.
What Someday and Somewhere really boils down to is a false belief that what you need is not available to you. It’s this idea that you are not in control of your life, you are waiting for something else somewhere else before you can take charge. Ironically, you will only get full access to your true resources when you take action exactly where you are with exactly what you’ve got, despite your excuses.
Now contains the seed of the rest of your life. Plant it with joy and water it with gratitude and continue to act in the now. Own the now. Act in the now. Be someone who says “I do it now”.